Many of us have an ex that we would rather forget, or one that we think about years later … and according to new research, we are not alone. A survey showed that the top -20 British in life -and it is not surprising that many of them contain relationships.
The survey of 2,000 adults found that relationships were also strong, even though they are too worried about what others think, do not save enough money and neglect their health.
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Number four on the list stayed in the wrong relationship for too long
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I’m not talking about feelings that have been classified number five
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To give an ex -branch too often in the top 20
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Ending a relationship too early was another frequent regret
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As someone didn’t tell you that you love her
The respondents of the survey carried out by Samsung to celebrate the start of the Galaxy S25 FE also admitted, an average of two former lovers who prefer to forget (just two?!), And spent almost six days a year to wish you could turn back.
How do you deal with regret when it comes to matters of the heart and how can you overcome them? We spoke to a consultant specializing in relationships to find out.
The complete list of regrence functions at the end of this article.
Regretting it can have some advantages, including you to make healthier decisions in the future. (Getty Images)
What is regret?
Regrettes negative emotions about decisions you have made, things you want, you could reverse, or thoughts about what could have been. They are a normal part of life and will influence most of us at one time or another. Although it may not feel that way at this time, regret is not always a bad thing.
Studies indicate that regret can actually help us understand the experiences in the past, to offer self -insurance and to control our decisions in the future in a healthier way. And if you go into a “regrets spiral”, you can do things.
BACP registered consultant Ragini Jha says: “It can help to think about what you not Regret and the times when you trust yourself and made the right call. Think about what you drive forward and what you are looking forward to in the future. “
When it comes to British romantic regret, she has the following advice.
The top 5 relationship regretted
The regret: Stay in the wrong relationship for too long
The advice: If you regret to stay in a relationship longer than you should probably have, JHA advises to be “a bit with yourself”.
“Recognize that there are probably many factors that kept you there. It is not necessarily time. It is time that you found out what you actually like and what you actually need,” she says.
And to help you know when it is time to end it in the future, she suggests finding out what you are scared about leaving. “Is it that you don’t want to start over or are you actually afraid of losing the person?”
A quarter of people said they would not change if they could not talk about feelings if they could. (Getty Images)
The regret: I’m not talking about your feelings
The advice: In the early phases of a relationship, JHA says that they talk about their feelings or what they really want can be difficult because they could worry that it is a deal break.
“If you tell you that you don’t call me enough or” you don’t do enough “or express a need, you can worry that it will be too much for the other person,” she says. But she adds that the suppression of your feelings and needs is not healthy in the long term.
If you want to be more open in future relationships, you first advise you on smaller weaknesses. “Practice things like what you prefer, what you like and what your wishes and needs are, and get used to expressing yourself in this way.”
And when you express a need or how you feel for something, and that’s the reason why a partner goes, she says: “You know it is probably the best.”
If friends and family express concerns, it could be a sign that they make excuses for the behavior of a partner. (Getty Images)
The regret: Give the advantage of doubt to an ex often
The advice: “I think everyone can refer to it,” says Jha. To help you get over the regret, she says: “Remember that you have only tried to see the best in the person, and there were probably uncertainties that you had not treated at the time you kept you going.”
When the relationship was poisonous, she adds that her ex “probably made her concerns not really a business, so it wasn’t quite her fault.”
To prevent this from happening in the future, she advises you to hear friends and family and ask yourself what you actually justify. “If there is a pattern in which people in their lives who take care of them and normally trust them and with which they agree to express concerns, this is probably a sign that they may make excuses for the behavior of a person,” she adds.
It can be easy to romantize past relationships and not to see them what they really were. (Getty Images)
The regret: Don’t say one person that you love you
The advice: According to JHA, we can sometimes romantize past relationships, which gives them the feeling that they were better than they actually were. “I think in general, people can see relationships very differently than reality,” she says.
If in this sense you are considering returning to this person and expressing your feelings, you advise you to think about the situation and who actually do it first. For example, you can be in a committed relationship.
“We sometimes regretted it because we are afraid of the future. The past may be familiar and safer, but that doesn’t mean that it was actually the right thing,” she says.
Ending things can appear the best option in many relationships – but maybe there was a better way forward if they still love each other. (Getty Images)
The regret: End a relationship too early
The advice: Jha suggests thinking about the reasons why they separated to give them more clarity about whether it was the right decision. “Think about whether it was a temporary fact, like forgetting, making the dishes, or whether it was a fundamental difference as if your values are different,” she says.
What is it trying again? Provided that they are both in a situation to resume their relationship, says JHA: “If you feel that the separation does not have the right reason and you are actually ready to get it going, then it is definitely worth mentioning to mention the other person.
“But if it was fundamental differences, and if you feel that the separation was really the right one, it could just be too painful.”
And if you find that there is a pattern in which you often end relationships after a certain time, she suggests why you can work on it for the future. “Is it the closeness that frightens you? Is it vulnerability or is it really the case that you only pursue the wrong people?” she says.